Today was one of those days where things went a lot better than the previous couple of days. I mentioned yesterday about a situation that I needed to deal with at work. I was able to do so with wonderful support from my boss, co-workers and especially my wife. Special thanks go to Judy my wife and Jessie my boss and department director. Both through their sage advice and love kept me from doing something that might have satisfied my desires but been damaging had I did it in the venue that I wanted, right here. It was one of those times that I learned to listen and not act on impulse. In the past I might have, to use a military term “fallen on my sword.” This is where in order to make a point you commit career suicide. The thing is about “falling on your sword” is that you tend to only get to do it once, whether you do it intentionally, or whether you get yourself into a situation where you lose control and make a costly mistake. So you must pick when and where and for what you are willing to do it. So it better be worth it. Likewise you have to be careful not to put youself in the position of making the costly mistake. Today was not worth it, those who I rely on as my sanity check kept me from doing this allowing my inner Romulan to reemerge and get control of myself before I even went up to take care of the situation.
Falling on one’s sword is like an unearned run in baseball. For the people who still need to get saved and become a member of the Church of Baseball, unearned runs are things that you do which give the opposing team runs that they did not earn. Unearned runs come mainly come from walks and errors, though wild pitches, passed balls and errant throws. These kind of mistakes allow the other team to get runners on base that should have been out. In baseball the lead off walk, the two out walk or error is often fatal to the team that allows it to happen. There is also the type of unearned run that comes when a pitcher decides to throw at a batter when it would go in against the best interests of the club. Maybe he does it because the batter hit a dinger the previous at bat, maybe for some other reason. The effect is often even worse. The pitcher gets the other team fired up, the batter gets a free pass to first and the pitcher then has to face the next batter with runners on base against a team that is now fired up.
I saw the former happen to the Durham Bulls tonight. An error in the bottom of the sixth on a pick off attempt put a runner into scoring position who the scored on a soft base hit to right. The Tides won the game 4-3 and improved their record to 9 and 4 moving to a half game behind the Bulls in the International League Southern Division The night was a great night for a ball game, just a little bit chilly, but such is April in Hampton Roads. Tomorrow the Tides and the Bulls play again, 7:15 at Harbor Park.
Today I was able to get what I needed on the table in a public forum. I was angry enough that to use the baseball analogy I was ready to throw at a certain individual’s head. Instead after talking with the manager, I was able to do a brush back which got his attention. Doing this I was protected by my boss and affirmed by my colleagues. And I didn’t even use any course language. When I told this to Judy she said something like “that’s amazing.” Something that I patently agree with and I am sure that the Deity Herself prevented me from allowing any unearned runs today. This actually felt good. After about 28 years in the business I am finally learning.
Finally I have to admit that I work with probably the best team of Chaplains that I have in my career. To all of you, you are the best. Thanks for helping me through the past couple of days and helping me not to a costly error.