All Good Things: My Decision to Retiree from the Military


Friends of Padre Steve’s World,

In the Star Trek Film Generations Captain Jean Luc Picard told Commander William Riker:

“Someone once told me that time was a predator that stalked us all our lives. But I rather believe than time is a companion who goes with us on the journey, and reminds us to cherish every moment because they’ll never come again. What we leave behind is not as important how we lived. After all, Number One, we’re only mortal.” 

Today was like any other Saturday for me except that I made the decision to put in my retirement papers from the Navy. Lord willing about this time next year I will be “piped ashore” in a retirement ceremony.

When that day comes it will be the end of a thirty-eight year military career in which I have served as an enlisted man, then an officer. I have served in the active duty Army, the Army Reserve, and California, Texas, and Virginia Army National Guard. Then in February of 1999 after 17 1/2 years in the Army I declared free agency so to speak and joined the Navy.  On February 8th I was a Major in the Army Reserve and on the 9th I was taking the oath of office as a Navy Lieutenant. My wife and my paternal grandmother were there when I took the oath in a humble, and now abandoned Naval Reserve Center in Huntington West Virginia.

So now, some 19 years and 8 months later I have made the decision to put in my retirement papers. For me it is a time for reflecting and realizing that it is the right time to do this. The last number of months in my assignment have been difficult and brought me little joy. I have sought to serve my congregations and to mentor, help, and protect the personnel assigned to me.

I have grown weary of the frustrations of dealing with a moribund bureaucracy, decaying facilities with no money to fix them, the prospect of losing most of my experienced enlisted personnel with no experienced personnel coming in, and dealing with Protestant and Catholic congregations that try my very soul. When one of my Protestant parishioners attempted to have me tried by court martial because he disagreed with my sermon content and then wrote a lying letter to my commander forcing an investigation in which I had to spend money on a lawyer to defend myself I crossed the Rubicon. I knew that I was going to retire at the end of my current tour.

Then this week I hit the culminating point when the faith group leader of my Catholic congregation and my new contract Priest raised such a ruckus and problems for my enlisted personnel and one of my Chaplains that I had to intervene despite being on leave and in the middle of massive work on my house. I spent Friday evening texting that lay leader and it only made me more upset. I realized that no matter what I did that had done to keep them going in the absence of a priest and how I fought for them that they had no loyalty of concern for me or my personnel. Gratefulness to others is not a virtue for most American Christians today, I knew that but learned it again.

This morning I read a Navy Message announcing a Selective Early Retirement Board for Captains and Commanders. I am in the zone and if chosen to be retired I would have little lead time to plan my retirement and do all the things that I would need to do medically, administratively, and personally to retire and have a decent chance of landing on me feet. Honestly, I would have rather spent the last year in a combat zone in Iraq like I did in 2007 and 2008 than deal with the bullshit that I have been dealing with lately.

I know that did the best that I could and I can say that the team of chaplains and Religious Program Specialists whose work I help direct and support are some of the finest people I have ever served with. Their honesty and likewise their care for me has been about the only thing that got me through. Honestly, I am so grateful for them and I treasure them all, just as I have so many of my other soldiers, sailors, marines, airmen, and civilians employed by the military for the last thirty-seven years.

I am at peace, and I am going to spent the time leading up to my retirement to cherish every moment. Now I know that my situation at work is not going to change but I am going to cherish the moments with the people that I care for and do my best to serve without getting to stressed out because I know now that I my future is only beginning. “Second star to the right and straight on till morning.”


Padre Steve+





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17 responses to “All Good Things: My Decision to Retiree from the Military

  1. Congrats on your decision to retire.

  2. Carmen

    Congratulations on your decision, Padre. You’ll probably find that you are just as busy retired. It has happened to many people I know. Good for you!

    • padresteve

      I will be doing a lot of writing and plan on teaching.

      • Carmen

        Ahhh. . you’ll be joining the ranks of my profession. I know you’ll do well, whatever you choose. Like Mary, I’m hoping you’ll keep blogging, though. 🙂

  3. Pierre Lagacé

    Reading your blog has been an inspiration.

  4. maryplumbago

    The world is changing and it’s becoming a very self centered “me, me” culture and this goes for politics, government and religion.
    I hope you continue your blog as I do enjoy it. Retirement will give you much needed inner space and peace and I’m sure you’ll feel a sense of freedom to pursue many of your interests.

  5. Your decision is completely understandable. The U.S. military should take a long, hard look at itself when such fine people feel compelled to leave. Best wishes for your retirement.

  6. francese D Wilocox

    “onward and upward!” New horizons and new people. Sounds like a plan! Blessings to you and yours! ( and screw the assholes!!!) pardon my unvarnished expressions, but they are sincere !! LOL

  7. It sounds as if you have made a wise decision. My jaw dropped on reading that somebody tried to have you court-martialed because he didn’t like your sermon! More than likely, as I am an agnostic, I would not agree with much in your sermons, but either I wouldn’t attend to begin with, else if I did attend, it would be to listen and learn, not to condemn, and certainly not to harm you!!! Sigh. The world is not one I recognize these days. Best of luck to you in your retirement!!! 😊

  8. Don McCollor

    …Good luck and Godspeed, Padre…

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